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Day 33 – Forgive

September 6, 2011


I tried the apology thing. Smh. Everybody wasn’t feeling it. It’s OK. Just because I decide to go on a mission of redemption doesn’t mean that everyone else is going to jump on the bandwagon.

I get it. It’s something to learn. Everyone moves at their own pace and in the direction that they want and need to go at the moment. Sometimes you are not in the same place at the same time with the people you are close to.

I am learning something, though. Love does not give up. I mean, someone you Love can hurt you, do whatever it is they do, but that doesn’t mean that you have to become like them. You can forgive even if they don’t change. You can have compassion even if they harm you. You don’t have to be around them or tolerate bad treatment, but you don’t have to hate them either. You don’t have to trust them or give your gifts to them if they show that they are not safe or good for you, but you don’t have to stop Loving them.

If we knew better we would do better.

You can pray for them. You can wish for them the good things that you wish for yourself. You can let go of the pain they caused and it doesn’t mean they will hurt you again. You can learn to make better decisions and you can even do that without beating yourself up. You can forgive yourself for the ways that you compromised. You can let go of the places that hurt really deep.

Sure, forgiveness may come with a few tears. You might actually have to change your mind about something and admit (if even only to yourself) that the other person may not have been completely at fault for everything, but it’s worth it. What are a few tears and an ego blow compared to a light heart?

There are those that will want you to suffer. They want you to pay for the harm you may have done. Don’t buy into it. They will never stop. Tell them sorry when you mean it, ask them how you can make it up if they will take it, and then move on. Forgive them. Forgive yourself. Do things different now. Learn and do things different now. And move on.

That’s what I learned today.

Day 33


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